Pondering today on some of the things I’ve learned.
If I could go back 25 years and talk to Wendy …what would I tell her?
She’s is about to give birth to her first child, excited, nervous, organized, and in control …or so she thinks. She thinks she knows it all and her way is the best way.
Fast forward to 5 children, ages 7 and under, a husband that travels often, and she is a perfectionist. She appears to hold it all together beautifully. Her home is pristine, her children all match and are smart and attractive, her husband is an amazing father and she has lost all her baby weight. On top of that, she home schools. Super woman for sure!
But the reality is…she was barely keeping her head above water.
What would I say to her if I could?
I would say…PLAY more! Enjoy the little people God has placed in your care. Realize that playing is not a lesser activity but the greater.
I would say… LISTEN more! There will be plenty of chances to teach and guide but listening is how you learn. You learn what their hopes and dreams are. You learn how they are uniquely created. You learn who they are and not who you want them to be.
I would say …SEE ALL THE COLORS, not just black and white. The beauty of this life is found in the different colors, the uniqueness of each soul, of each snowflake, of each sunset. That things are rarely as they appear at first glance or should I say, first judgement. Everyone has a story, that story is worth taking the time to read, so don’t judge a book by its cover.
I would say …FREEDOM is way better than control. Control is an illusion and eventually is exposed for the lie it is. Freedom, on the other hand, is a truth that is always there but sometimes takes a long time to see. Choose the way of freedom early…choose it for yourself and freely share it with others.
I would say …LOVE is the answer. Life is full of questions and for most of my life, I have thought there is a “right” answer and a “wrong” answer. I was firmly convinced that my way was always the right answer. Now I see that the right answer is always the same…love. This was hard for a perfectionist…to realize everything was not always a neat and tidy package, that life was messy and “right and wrong” made little difference to clean up the messy. However, Love transforms the messy into beautiful.
I would say …LIVE now. Don’t spend your life looking forward or backward. You have one life on this earth and make the most of it. Do what YOU are created to do, be who YOU are created to be and shine how YOU are created to shine. YOU are who He says you are …His work of art.
Being a mom teaches you more about the unconditionally, fully exposed and wide open love of God than any book, teacher or preacher ever could …and for that, I am beyond grateful.
Happy Mother’s Day my friends! Love well